I was watching an episode of Friends this week and Phoebe was on a mission to do ‘selfless good deeds’ to prove she wasn’t so self-focused.
She calls her good friend Joey to tell him she is doing a great job. She just went to the park and let a bee sting her. Something she believed they loved doing. Her belief was that she was giving the bee pleasure while she selflessly was in pain, as a result. What she didn’t realise is that the bee dies after it stings something. So Joey ‘kindly’ let her know she has killed the bee.
Does this mean the good deed doesn’t count?
It could be that intent is what matters here. Phoebe’s intent was to receive pain to make the bee happy.
It could be that the outcome is more important and now a bee has died we will have less honey and less flowers, as they won’t be pollinated.
OR it could be neither and we could play with everything not being right or wrong? We just learn from each moment.
I reckon when it comes to being happy, there is no right or wrong. It’s just a battle between your happiness and judgement.
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