My good mate Dr Dan Diamond has seen tragedy. He has been the Medical Director for the First Response Units for natural disasters. He says the difference between a fast and healthy recovery compared to a slow and laboured process is how we view it. It’s the difference between a ME or WE focus. ‘Me’ says – I’ll look after myself. ‘We’ says we are in this together.
Lisa O’Neil during her online book launch; ‘Everything You Want’ says you can be a contributor or a contaminator. Contributors fix stuff. Contaminators stay stuck and point fingers.
Blaming the government in China, blaming someone for Ruby Princess, blaming the person who didn’t isolate when they should have. I get it. It’s our natural first response. We are angry that they didn’t do the right thing. But staying in blame doesn’t serve the situation.
Go back to being a kid for a bit. When you got growled at, yelled at or judged for doing something wrong, how did it make you feel? Not good right. You felt small and would often want to retreat from the person or the situation.
Blame looks for retribution. It doesn’t focus on moving forward. Blame loves to shame. It doesn’t focus on a solution.
Blame is like standing on a mountain and yelling at everyone while they are lugging up all their belongings. It’s lazy. It’s condemning. It’s unhelpful. It keeps you trapped. It’s like drinking a bottle of poison in the hope it will kill your enemies.
It’s ok to find out what went wrong. We can then correct or learn from it.
Seth Godin has been leading from the front with his daily musings. I loved last weeks;
‘The question is: Will you embrace an emotional posture that models how you’d like it to feel instead? Today, this day, we only get it once. How do you want today to feel on an emotional level?
It takes effort.
But it’s a choice.
We can’t change how things are, but we can change how we will approach today.
And yes, an attitude can spread. Begin with us’
Where are you getting caught up in blame and could turn it around to problem solving?