Did you know that your relationship to conflict significantly impacts how you make decisions, develop relationships and sets the tone.
Whether you are an avoider and would prefer to stick pins and needles in your eyes than confront another. Or you love it a little bit too much and your need to win kicks in, we all can be a little dysfunctional about how we approach conflict.
The thing is. Conflict isn’t bad. It’s how we move forward ideas, strategies, understand different positions. Disagreement is not bad. We just need to learn how to do it well.
Margaret Hefferman, an author and expert in high performance teams says that;
Conflict is good.
Combat is not.
But I am going to take it one step further and say that;
Nice goes nowhere.
When we choose to step away from conflict under the guise of wanting to ‘keep the peace’ or ‘maintain the relationship’ then we are still avoiding. Things don’t change in this space. This is not high performance. It’s high avoidance.
When we learn how to approach conflict in a healthy way we create amazing relationships, teams and workplaces. Don’t just take my word for it. Patrick Lencioni says that poor conflict is the number 1 dysfunction of a team. Cy Wakeman says that poor conflict creates drama and we spend about 2.5 hours a day in unproductive time when we are here.
Unhealthy conflict is costing us. Our business, our teams, our relationships and our own stress levels. Let’s not do this anyway. Let’s learn how to it well.
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