I was watching The Voice with my daughter Holly last week. It was the Semi-Finals and I do love watching a potential artist rise from the unknown. There were 8 singers left in the competition so they were battling their way to be a part of the final 4 for the Grand Finale.
I love it when you are able to watch someone really feel their music. You can see it when it comes from their heart and soul. But equally I am a sucker for an awesome defeat speech too. The ‘thanks even though I didn’t get through’ one.
‘Mitch’ didn’t get through. But he’s a winner to me. Mitch talked about being on The Voice as the best experience of his life. They all say that and it doesn’t diminish the truth of it. I hear them thanking all the Coaches for their support and advice. But what I don’t hear them all saying is thanking all the Coaches for their criticism. I love how Mitch phrased it;
“I want to thank the Coaches for all their positive criticism”.
Positive criticism. I love that. That’s how he saw it.
Who, when they leave a job, or a relationship, thank people for all the hard conversations they’ve had with us? Harvard tells us that those who have a good relationship to feedback are in the top 10% of leaders that others want to work with. Think about it. If you are open and proactively give and receive feedback – your peers want to work and be with you. You’re in the elite group. I’m up for that!
Mitch chose to hear the tough stuff and to see it as a positive experience. He’d be in the top 10% I would suspect. I reckon we are more open when it is someone more senior or more experienced. But how do we go with people who WE perceive are not as good as us, or don’t know us?
If I asked your colleagues, your friends and your partner how do you view feedback – would they say you are appreciative of the positive criticism?
We need more Mitches in the world I reckon. They come knowing there is gold in all feedback. The good and the bad. Coz that’s how we learn.