Knowing it, is not owning it

You know when you know something is right, yet you don’t do it?

You know when you have unhelpful thinking patterns, yet you don’t stop the rumination?

You know when your head tells you one thing, yet your mouth exposes another?

Yep, I do.

Many of you will know, I have been doing the final edits of my book, Fixing Feedback.  I have been telling myself since I started writing it; ‘Gaud, writing steals my happy’. ‘Geez I wish I was doing something else’. Yet I know I’m pretty good at it and when I’m in my flow, it’s a fantastic experience.

I knew my posture towards writing was not right.  In fact, it was blatantly not true.  But I had fallen into a habit of telling myself this ‘truth’ and as a result I had not been looking forward to writing.   Worst still, I knew I had been doing it.

I’d been settling with sabotaging my writing time. But it’s ok, because I was ‘self aware’.

And you know what?!

That’s not ok.  And that’s not owning it.  That’s just knowing it.

Harvard Business Review published We’re not very self aware especially at work that said ‘for teams to perform effectively, each member must possess a combination of technical and interpersonal skills and constantly adjust their contributions to meet the team’s needs’.  So self awareness is not enough.

Owning it, requires action.  Self awareness is not action.  Self awareness is super important and vital for change but it’s only the beginning. For example, knowing that the leader of your business is bullying others does not change things.

It’s like knowing that smoking will kill you but not stopping.

It’s like staying in a job that makes you unhappy yet doing nothing.

It’s like knowing your team member is not doing their best work, and saying nothing.

It’s like observing someone speaking rudely to another, and doing nothing.

Knowing it, is not owning it. Owning it requires action.  Action to change the unhealthy behaviours or thinking.

ACT now.  Action, Changes, Things. 

So what do you know, but now need to own?

If you want to learn how to take a hold of your unhealthy thinking patterns talk to Georgia Murch.