Unless you are a robot, you would have experienced something that is not your fault but you are living in the repercussions of. It could be a colleague that’s thrown you under the bus, a friend that falsely accused you of something, a leader that didn’t tell you to do something and it fell over or even a pandemic you’re living in.
It’s not your fault that it’s happened right?! I hear you. So what if there is nothing you need to own in the situation. Nothing to learn from. What do you do then?
Yes you can have winge and a wine.
You could crack it and wipe them.
You might even just keep busy and try and ignore it so you don’t have to deal with it or them.
But are any of those things really going to help to improve the situation?
Whether it’s blame or denial you are sitting in, can I challenge you with the words of Byron Katie;
“As long as you think that the cause of your problem is “out there”—as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering—the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering in paradise.”
Yeah it’s not your fault. But it is your responsibility to deal with it. Blame starts with us. Blame cultures start with people. It’s about what we allow.
What are you blaming someone for at the moment? Is it really giving you peace to do that? Just asking.
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