Just did a yoga class that was really annoying. It said it was a ‘power flow’ class but it felt more like a ‘slow flow’. In fact, it felt like a cool down for 60 whole minutes. I don’t mind a slow class but when I’ve booked one that says ‘power’. I want power.
Grrrr. This was my thinking in the class.
I thanked the teacher. After all. She’s doing her best and she is a beautiful teacher – for a slow flow.
Grrrr. As I walked to the car.
Then I was reminded of a better way to think about this. What if the class is not frustrating but I just reacted with frustration? That makes more sense to me. I chose to become frustrated at her. Not see my role in it.
I am learning to be really conscious of what I am thinking and how it gives me energy or depletes me. Blaming others or staying in denial of an issue – depletes me. It fuels my anger and resentment. I don’t want that. Neither do the people around me.
Anger, blame, resentment and frustration are easy to do. Rising above it and accepting our role requires something different.
I’m with Adam Grant when he says that; ‘Discovering you were wrong doesn’t have to threaten your intelligence or bruise your ego. It can be a sign that you’ve learned something. Few of us enjoy being wrong. Finding joy in having been wrong is a step towards keeping an open mind’.
It’s a reminder to practise being truthful with yourself. When you are truthful with yourself, you start to see everything as it is, not the way you want to see it. I wanted to blame her. That was easy. Yet if I was being truthful, I was making the experience less. It was a beautiful class after all.
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