I was having lunch with a friend of mine JR a few of weeks ago. We were talking (well I was talking and he was listening, as he does) about surrender. Being someone who had a strong relationship to control this concept of surrender has been a rollercoaster ride to grasp.
The things we stress over or concern us might be our health, waiting for a promotion, a decision your partner is making, your kids well-being, your finances. Whatever it is, it causes angst. The problem is that many of the things that create tension are not within our power to change. These things keep us tied down. And not in a sexy way 😉 Stephen Covey’s ‘Circle of Influence’ is a great way to help you understand what is within your power to control and what you have influence over, if you wanted to understand it more.
Think about it. What is something that is causing tension for you right now. A relationship? Something at work? A family member? Your workload? Some of these we can influence. We could have a conversation to let others know where we sit. We could lobby for change. We could let people know we are not able to deliver on work commitments or delegate stuff. These things we can influence. But we can’t control.
What we can control is how we think about it. I know we get that. But it doesn’t feel like it at the time. Surrender is a big concept. I have visions of a free fall. Arms wide, breeze in your hair. Like a free fall you don’t have control. So start small.
Author Gabrielle Bernstein’s The Universe Has Your Back says that; ‘Worry is a prayer to chaos’. Awwww. That is so good and so true.
Pick one thing you could trust the Universe with and then do what you need to do to move through it. If you don’t start now it’s not likely to change.