I’ve just spent three days in one of my favourite places. At the Thought Leaders Business School Immersion. We have them every 3 months. To work on our practice, make decisions about the next 3 months, design a new program, decide who to market it to and create a plan. I’ve been on this journey, growing my practice and mentoring others to do the same, for nearly 4 years now. And you know what? It’s bloody tough.
You might see me as a Facilitator – up there doing my thing. Helping you, your teams and businesses develop and grow through training. Or you might know me as a Mentor who helps you become a better leader. Or getting you pumped and motivated as a Keynote Speaker at your conference. You see the ease of my delivery and grace of my dance (well hopefully that’s your experience).
What you don’t see is the sweat, the failures, the tears and the exhaustion of running my own business, being a single Mum, strained relationships/friendships and life learnings that cost me time, money and at worst, my health. In saying that, it’s mostly good.
I didn’t sign up for easy. I signed up for change. I didn’t want what I had. I wanted something different.
So, what I have learnt is that pushing through is hard. But if it isn’t. It often doesn’t stick.
If exercising to keep fit and stay in shape was easy, everyone would do it. If speaking in public was easy, we would all be keynote speakers. It’s the same for eating well, building selfless friendships and self-managing our reactions when we are stressed. The things that matter are often hard.
Stop kidding yourself that you’ll wait until you feel good about taking the next step. Feel good about giving someone a warning, feel relaxed about having that tough conversation or feel calm about doing a speech. If you wait to feel good about it, you will stay the way you are.
Kash Shaikh, Founder of Besomebody tells us that “anything that of value and of meaning’s not gonna be easy…and that’s how it’s supposed to be”.
Change is not an event. It’s a process that requires decision after decision after decision. Yep that’s tough. But it’s the deal.
If you want something you’ve never had before, you need to do something you’ve never done. Again, and again. We know this. So, ask yourself? What am I waiting to ‘feel good’ about?
Then, watch this 1-minute clip from Kash Shaikh for a little inspiration. You’re welcome!