I’ve just spent a week in Bali. Starting to write my next book; ‘Flawsome‘. Rewiring our relationship to feedback and to ourselves’. Bloody love it too. But that’s not what I want to talk about.
If you’ve ever been to Bali or any third world countries it’s very different to our very protected western world. You can’t drink the tap water, be guaranteed an education or have your medical needs met. We take so much for granted.
But you can rent a bike, car or scooter with no experience. Well none that they ask for anyway. And you share the road, the very skinny dirt roads, with people, cats, dogs and even ducks. So who owns the road? Who’s the king that we all need to move to the side for? They all are. No one is more important than another. They have orderly chaos.
If you step in front of a bike or car you don’t get tooted. If you pull out on your scooter in front of a car or person, no one gives you the bird. Well maybe an Aussie might but certainly no Indonesians do. So why is this?
You are not given a rule book about how to drive. There are not even signs. There are very few lights even on busy intersections. So how is order kept and tempers low?
The road is not ruled by rules. It’s governed by kindness.
Kindness doesn’t crack the s&*ts when someone pulls out in front of you.
Kindness doesn’t assume not indicating is personal.
Kindness doesn’t think you’re the most important person on the road.
You know what kindness does?
Kindness let’s people in.
Kindness works out how to work with the flow.
Kindness knows that we all need to make it work.
Kindness is a culture. And it’s made up of individuals. Not a system.
Mark Twain was on the money when he said;
‘Kindness is the language
that the deaf can hear
and the blind can see’
So next time you go to crack it at the person in the coffee shop, or get grumpy with an Uber driver or get triggered off in the car by someone you’ve never met. You decide. What would kindness do? Blame would say you shouldn’t have said that, done that. Blame would say you need to be faster, instead of me learning to be more patient. Blame would make you the problem and I don’t need to own anything.
Blame is easy and it means you stay trapped. Don’t ask the world to be kinder.
You are the world.
You are the people.
You are the one who can make a brighter day.
So let’s start giving.
Yeah I may have pulled that last bit from the ‘We are the world’ lyrics. But the point is made. Choose kindness. It starts in the small moments.
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